by Catherine Franz
When our heart is broken from an experience or set of experiences, connected or unrelated, our brain kicks in to protect it.
For a writer, It’s important to know where the words are coming from. And just as important to choose where you want to come from -- to write from.
If you are in the mist of planning and organizing your writing piece, especially if its a book, I recommend not letting your heart in at first. Think from your library which comes from your mind.
If you are struggling with a course or direction for your writing piece, or the layout or table of contents ask whether you are trying to complete it from your head or your heart.
Yes, the perfect balance is to be able to use both at the same time. This author doesn’t know if this is possible. But what is possible is to ask the question, “Am I writing, pulling from, right now, my head or my heart? And which would feel right? Which would allow me to express what I want to say in the best way?”
If you aren’t sure which one is best, allow yourself to turn off the heart and write strictly from the head. Afterwards, reverse the process…turn off the head and write from the heart. This is a good exercise to discover which one is writing and to get them to converse together.
If you believe it’s always best to express your writing from your heart. Allow me to share this…
When I’m working on a sequence section, such as a nonfiction how-to process, or even a fiction story that’s running sequentially with time, I first pull from my library…my head by asking, “What’s next? And then what happened? And then what happened?” etc.
After I have the sequence laid out, I rewrite the piece from scratch. This time from my heart. And since I already worked through the sequence from my library the emotion now intertwine into the piece. My expression is different. My words change. My writing is more relaxed. More enjoyable to read and easier for the reader to connect with.
If you are struggling to add more emotion to your writing piece, this will help. When I coach technical writers, I begin with this same awareness I’m providing you with. It’s because technical writing is more writing from the brain than it is from the heart. Eventually, they turn off their heart writing. Besides other connections that need to change, I coach them on how to write from the heart.
When I’m writing and I’m not sure where it’s coming from, I place my hand over my heart and let it sit there for a moment. When I feel the energy between the hand and the heart connect I know I’m writing from the heart.
What causes us to write from the brain is a broken heart. This comes from experiences in life that didn’t go the way we had hoped or wanted them to. This can come from broken love-type of relationships to yelling at our kids and everything in between. This broken connection is more prevalent in us than most of us think it is and that’s because our head is protecting us from the pain.
You have heard the saying, “She died from a broken heart.” Logically, we’ve heard it, yet many of us, myself included for a long time, didn’t really think it was true. It was something out there, invented by some fiction writer. In actuality it is true…we can die from a broken heart. It happens daily.
To mend the heart I recommend Byron Katie’s book and process. The book, “Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life” (Amazon link) is enlightening to say the least. She walks you through a mending process. If you can, I would recommend working with one of her trained coaches and heal faster. Katie calls her process “The Work.” If you are seeking a coach who is skilled in The Work, I highly recommend, and I’m saying this from hands-on experience, Alison Elissa. Her email address is coach@alisonelissa.com. Her Web site: www.alisonelissa.com. Receive a complimentary session, to experience this wonderful process, by giving her my name, Catherine Franz.
In the meantime, check-in with your head and your heart. Ask which one wants to write now. And mend the heart. It’s worth the effort. Your writing will change overnight and so will how you see life.
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